Saturday, March 15, 2014
The other night a friend of mine was playing a small local venue. I try to get out to his gigs once in a while to support him. If people don't come and spend money, it shows poorly on him. I'm not a big bar scene guy, so I usually come out, order a drink and maybe an appetizer and jet after a few songs.
This particular night, I decided to step it up a bit. Instead of jeans and a nicer t-shirt, I stepped it up a bit more. Nothing crazy. Jeans, black dress shoes, dress shirt and a sport coat.
When I entered the place, I took inventory and I was probably the second best dressed guy there. Best dressed I think was the owner. Although he was only marginally better dressed. So I was not way out of place like a full suit would have been. But everyone else was in jeans and a sweat shirt or long sleeve not quite dress shirt. Plenty of baseball caps.
Here's what I noticed from that night. I don't think I was treated very differently. Got a few looks when I walked in. I could tell people noticed I was dressed well, but no one came up to me. No women threw themselves at me. I did not get better service from the bartender.
The thing I noticed most was that I FELT DIFFERENT. From the moment I walked out of the house, I felt confident. I was confident because I put the best version of myself forward for that night. I walked taller. I wanted to drink alcohol LESS! Is that crazy? I don't think so. I think we often drink to boost our confidence. But I was already feeling good about myself.
I did something that night I rarely do. Especially in that type of setting. I introduced myself to someone. An older guy setting nearby. The situation was just perfect to roll up and start a conversation, and I made the decision to do it. It went well. No new lifelong friend, but just a pleasant conversation and adios.
I didn't stay long. Had couple of beers and an appetizer, just like I planned. Chatted with my friend between sets and left. I left feeling good. I went in feeling good about myself, played the night just as I had planned and left.
This is the essence of game - being the best version of you that you can be. I so wish I had learned some of this stuff when I was younger. Never too late to improve yourself.
Go out and be the best version of yourself that you can be.
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
"Information technology (IT) is the application of computers and telecommunications equipment to store, retrieve, transmit and manipulate data, often in the context of a business or other enterprise. The term is commonly used as a synonym for computers and computer networks, but it also encompasses other information distribution technologies such as television and telephones. Several industries are associated with information technology, including computer hardware, software, electronics, semiconductors, internet, telecom equipment, e-commerce and computer services"
Working in IT sucks.
Pace of Change is Maddening
The reason it sucks is that it is difficult, and no matter how much you know. Damn industry always has to roll some new framework that makes everything else obsolete. So you are constantly learning new stuff that often is worse than the old stuff.
Managers Can't Do It (but think they can manage the doing of it)
The people that manage you will be completely unable to do what you do, but they will think they can design, architect and hypothesize about it better than you. You will also be the one stuck figuring out how to make their great ideas work. But you won't get the credit for doing it. They will.
Everything takes so much longer than anyone ever thinks it should. Which means stress and/or overtime to ever hit a schedule. Schedule - who are we kidding? The schedule is meaningless and subject to constant change (see above item).
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Regular job. 40 hours a week. Full time work. What ever you want to call it. The problem with it is that you have such little time and energy left to do anything. ANYTHING.
After work, how much do you ...
- Think - too spent from the day.
- Read - worn out and unable to concentrate on it.
- Build a business of your own - not enough energy and time left.
- Build meaningful relationships - in the margins of your time and energy.
- Sedate and entertain yourself in the scraps of time you have left in an attempt to maintain some of your sanity? Yeah - that's what most folks do.
Roosh hit on this in a recent post,
From his post (emphasis mine):
"Having a 9-5 job. A 9-5 job is the closest humans get to running on a hamster wheel. While some jobs are fulfilling, they tire out both the mind and body. A man who has a full time job will not be able to devote the necessary amount of energy and effort into finding the truth because he’s in a perpetual state of physical exhaustion and mental numbness. Even reading a difficult book will be too onerous for him after a stressful day at the office. My own efforts into finding truth accelerated greatly once I quit my job, even though my income dropped almost to zero (for the short term). "
- Would you happily switch to a part time status at your current job in order to have more of your time back?
- Could you structure your job so that you have extended periods off (sabbatical?)
- Are you willing to modify how you live to reduce expenses so you can work less?
- Are you willing to quit it all to pursue your own interests?
The problem with a full time job in today's market is that it amounts to voluntary slavery. It just f@#$ng sucks the life out of you. I am not sure you can buy or sell your soul in parts. I think it may be an all or nothing proposition.
Your company acts like it owns you. NO - your company DOES own you. Doubt me? If you are typical and carry debt, live month to month and do not have a generous F#$K YOU FUND in reserve, they have the power to absolutely destroy your way of life. Profits down this quarter, layoffs and you could lose it all from a layoff. Say an off color joke and it is overheard and reported, even worse. You could get tossed out and with that on your record, it will be very difficult to get into another
plantation company. Your company controls you - how FEAR. FEAR is induced because your company has the power to destroy you.
Aaron Clarey talks about this in detail in his book Bachelor Pad Economics. I am currently reading the book, and I will give a full review once I finish it. Already I highly recommend the book. Check it out.
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Recently discovered another site: (NSFW) Good Looking Loser (NSFW). Very cool site which looks like is written on honest experiences from a red pill guy. He shares shit that I cannot imagine anyone being willing to share, which brings me to today's post.
He writes in great detail about (NSFW) his use of the Flesh Light (NSFW). He used one as part of a penis enlargement program that, by his account, was very successful.
After reading about Good Looking Loser's Flesh Light experiences, my thoughts went beyond the immediate to a more abstract place.
Could the flesh light ...
- Provide frustrated men an outlet without having to deal with flaky, self-absorbed women?
- Provide married men a BETTER sexual experience than f#$%ng their out of shape, non-responsive "ex-slut" wives?
- Combined with porn or virtual reality, could masturbation become superior to sex with women, especially average women of today?
- Could this rob women of the only real leverage they have over men in today's sexual market place / dating scene?
I don't claim to have the answers, but this is a very interesting angle on relations between the sexes.
Beyond this topic, Good Looking Loser is a very interesting site to read. Check it out - just not from work.
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
A recent conversation with a female. Note: this is a female I have known for years, and that is important to the point of this post*.
Female: What are you doing?
New Hombre: Reading a book.
F: Oh, me too.
NH: What book are you reading?
F: Book X.Y.Z. ... some details about book X.Y.Z.
NH: Some followup about details about book X.Y.Z.
F: Some final comments about book X.Y.Z.
Noticeably missing from the conversation ... any curiosity or interest in the book I am reading. Which brings me to the point of this post*
Next time you are conversing with someone, pay notice if they actually show any interest in you or your life at all. This becomes a simple test and categorizing method: if the person never asks about you or your life, they are a self-absorbed, narcissistic individual. They "pass" the self-absorbed narcissist test OR "fail" the ability to care about / take interest in others test, depending on how you want to phrase it.
I am aware of and understand female solipsism, so a female responding this way is not surprising. I will be taking note of conversations I have with male/female over the coming week to see if the men I converse with are statistically less self centered or not.
Try the experiment on your own. Takes no extra time, just a little thought during your normal conversations.
You can also use this to your advantage during conversation, prime the pump and let others talk. Often people will give you lots of very personal information without you doing much probing.
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Very cool application of technology in this head lamp. It automatically adjusts based on WHERE you are looking.
I have regular headlamps that have these options, but you have to manually switch between modes. This new technology would be very useful for folks who hike or rock climb. It allows you to keep hands free while looking at maps or gear without using a hand to change modes.
Sunday, February 23, 2014
Over the top and just what you would expect it to be.
I laughed a ton during the first 30 minutes of this movie. What I really liked was that Rodriguez did not take this seriously, but had fun with it.
A number of names appear in the movie that surprised me, and they seemed to enjoy it for what it was as well.
The downside, WAY TOO LONG. This would have been just right at just over an hour, but it stretched out far too long.
If you're looking for something to do while folding laundry or some other mindless task, great way to lighten the mood during the time.