Sunday, July 13, 2014
Why do you drink so much?
Why do you smoke?
Why do you do drugs?
Why do you binge eat?
Probably because you lack hope and satisfaction. You are attempting to find an escape from the stress of your existence.
I think the majority of people are so disconnected from others and lacking of meaningful relationships that they lack satisfaction in their day to day lives. They are absolutely starved for it.
The flip side of why, is why not?
Why not get trashed, overeat or any other destructive coping activity?
Why not? Because you have something in your life you find satisfaction in. You have something you hope for you in the future.
Find something in your life to be satisfied with today. It can be something small. Anything.
Find something you hope for and will work towards to be satisfied with in the future.
Having satisfaction and hope is critical for building a fulfilling life.
Please note, I am not throwing stones. We all cope with various methods. It is important to look at why we do what we do. Let's be honest with ourselves. We may find areas of our lives that we can improve as a result.
Friday, July 4, 2014
I've been playing guitar for a while now, and it's a great hobby. I highly recommend it, but probably not for the reasons you think.
Your first thought is probably - women. Last reason you should pick up any hobby or interest other than game itself.
Some of the reasons you should consider picking it up.
Playing is a very immersive experience. When you pick up the guitar and play for a while, when you are done you realize you have not been thinking about whatever stresses or problems you had on your mind. It is a very zen like experience. It takes focus and being in the moment.
It is very enjoyable, once you get over the frustration period. It is very satisfying to explore the sounds and music you can play. It is very creative.
Nothing builds confidence like overcoming challenges. Playing guitar is a real challenge. The finger movements are unnatural, and your hands will not be strong or conditioned to playing for a while. Sticking to it and being able to play some songs you hear on the radio will build confidence. It will also teach you to expect and overcome the frustration period any new skill requires.
An acoustic guitar can be grabbed and taken about anywhere. You can practice at the park or play while hanging out with friends. Not so much with a piano.
You can play guitar for the rest of your life. MMA and other similar interests are hard on the body and a young man's arena. I also cannot imagine ever running out of things to learn. Every time I feel like I'm getting a handle on the instrument, my instructor opens a new door and it's learning some new aspect of the instrument - reset the learning process.
If you are interested in learning, I can pass on the following from my own experience.
Don't just buy a guitar and try to figure it out on your own. Get an instructor. A local one if you can, but if you cannot afford one or have access to one, there are great online resources. Doug Marks has been doing video lessons for many many years, and his program is great. Steve Stine has some great video instruction under "Absolute Fretboard Mastery". A year's worth of instruction for free. Very high quality instruction.
The first 3 months or so absolutely suck. It's frustrating. It takes time to build finger strength, dexterity and callouses. Realize that and muscle through it. You'll be glad you did.
Smaller Acoustic Guitars
I recommend a smaller acoustic guitar strung with light strings with a cutaway to start with. The lighter strings allow you to practice bends and other lead patterns. The cutaway allows you to play the higher frets commonly played in leads. I find the smaller body (folk body vs dreadnought) more comfortable to play and transport. An acoustic guitar also does not require additional electronics (amp) to play.
Make sure the instrument is properly setup. Most of the instruments you purchase will not be professionally setup. It's worth the additional $75 bucks or so to get it properly setup. An instrument that is not setup properly can be EXTREMELY difficult to play and may cause you to abandon it.
If you are looking for a new hobby / interest, consider playing the guitar. It's very satisfying and a great stress relief. It can't hurt your game either to be able to drop playing guitar in your conversation or play a little something for that babe that comes over to hang out.
Saturday, June 7, 2014
Recently finished this book and WOW!
Of course I cannot verify this, but the book felt like it was an honest telling of events - he told when he did not train or do well in a fight. He revealed things that may be embarrassing. It seemed to be straight from the heart.
One of the interesting things in the book was where he recounted meeting Iceberg Slim. Very interesting after having read Iceberg Slim's biography.
Tyson is open about the demons he has fought with and continues to fight with.
He is also one scary mother fucker. A big scary bipolar son of a bitch. He talks about how if a fan approached him and he was in a down mood, he might just as quickly bitch slap the person as sign an autograph. I really liked when he wrote about the the times he went off on Don King.
There's nothing I can say to summarize or describe this book beyond get it and read it. Hard to put it down once you start reading.
5 stars for sure.
Friday, May 23, 2014
Sunday, May 11, 2014
Saturday, March 15, 2014
The other night a friend of mine was playing a small local venue. I try to get out to his gigs once in a while to support him. If people don't come and spend money, it shows poorly on him. I'm not a big bar scene guy, so I usually come out, order a drink and maybe an appetizer and jet after a few songs.
This particular night, I decided to step it up a bit. Instead of jeans and a nicer t-shirt, I stepped it up a bit more. Nothing crazy. Jeans, black dress shoes, dress shirt and a sport coat.
When I entered the place, I took inventory and I was probably the second best dressed guy there. Best dressed I think was the owner. Although he was only marginally better dressed. So I was not way out of place like a full suit would have been. But everyone else was in jeans and a sweat shirt or long sleeve not quite dress shirt. Plenty of baseball caps.
Here's what I noticed from that night. I don't think I was treated very differently. Got a few looks when I walked in. I could tell people noticed I was dressed well, but no one came up to me. No women threw themselves at me. I did not get better service from the bartender.
The thing I noticed most was that I FELT DIFFERENT. From the moment I walked out of the house, I felt confident. I was confident because I put the best version of myself forward for that night. I walked taller. I wanted to drink alcohol LESS! Is that crazy? I don't think so. I think we often drink to boost our confidence. But I was already feeling good about myself.
I did something that night I rarely do. Especially in that type of setting. I introduced myself to someone. An older guy setting nearby. The situation was just perfect to roll up and start a conversation, and I made the decision to do it. It went well. No new lifelong friend, but just a pleasant conversation and adios.
I didn't stay long. Had couple of beers and an appetizer, just like I planned. Chatted with my friend between sets and left. I left feeling good. I went in feeling good about myself, played the night just as I had planned and left.
This is the essence of game - being the best version of you that you can be. I so wish I had learned some of this stuff when I was younger. Never too late to improve yourself.
Go out and be the best version of yourself that you can be.
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
"Information technology (IT) is the application of computers and telecommunications equipment to store, retrieve, transmit and manipulate data, often in the context of a business or other enterprise. The term is commonly used as a synonym for computers and computer networks, but it also encompasses other information distribution technologies such as television and telephones. Several industries are associated with information technology, including computer hardware, software, electronics, semiconductors, internet, telecom equipment, e-commerce and computer services"
Working in IT sucks.
Pace of Change is Maddening
The reason it sucks is that it is difficult, and no matter how much you know. Damn industry always has to roll some new framework that makes everything else obsolete. So you are constantly learning new stuff that often is worse than the old stuff.
Managers Can't Do It (but think they can manage the doing of it)
The people that manage you will be completely unable to do what you do, but they will think they can design, architect and hypothesize about it better than you. You will also be the one stuck figuring out how to make their great ideas work. But you won't get the credit for doing it. They will.
Everything takes so much longer than anyone ever thinks it should. Which means stress and/or overtime to ever hit a schedule. Schedule - who are we kidding? The schedule is meaningless and subject to constant change (see above item).